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It’s a quote used to remind women that they don’t need to feel guilty when engaging in self-care, but I absolutely hate it.
What’s wrong with “You can’t pour from an empty cup”?
The assumption behind this quote is that the only reason why you should take care of yourself is so that you can be of value to others. Do you see that?
You deserve to have a full cup simply because you are a worthy and valuable human. You don’t have to have a full cup so that you can be of value to others. You can just have a full cup.
Do you expect your parents to take care of themselves so that they can help you? Do you expect your friends to take care of themselves so that they can be of value to you? My guess is that the answer is no.
Your value as a human does not come from how valuable you are to others.
You don’t need to earn rest.
If there have been times when this quote was helpful for you, that’s totally ok. I see it as a starting point. The end goal would be that you reach the point of knowing your own inherent personal value so that you take good care of yourself.
You can have a full cup.
You are worth taking care of.
